It's Not All Porn and Games

As much as I’d like it to be all play and no work, I work!
 
I think about all the work I do, especially those that don’t come with a paycheck and it seems almost impossible to do all that I have going on all the time.  I over-extend myself every time that I swear that I won’t do it.  But, since I am the queen of wanting to help people in any way that I can, I am the YES girl.  Lucky for everyone that loves to take, take and take!  I need to learn to use the word NO!
 

I am so independent and strong headed (stubborn is a better word) that I like to do everything myself.  I don’t like asking for help and I tend to live by the motto “If you want something done right, then do it yourself”… I took pause in the fact that sometimes that can even apply in the bedroom! But, that’s for another post!
 
Back to the right train of thought… so I figure if people are asking over and over for help then they truly, really need it.  If I ask for help and I am trying to do that more often so that I don’t overwhelm myself, delegate like I would with an employee.  It works out well generally, figuring if you have a good staff you will do good work!  But, if you have that person in your group that likes credit more than work, then you have a problem and you end up doing it yourself, which can be highly stressful.
 
Today I sat in a meeting for 3 and a half hours and it was so long and boring.  Most people claiming they have other meetings and leave at every lull in conversation.  I say claim because I wish I had one to claim, as well.  Being an executive board member and chairing many positions, I am literally the second to last to leave, the last was the President.  It wasn’t all that bad… no, actually it was!
 
It hit it’s peek for me at hour one, so by hour two I wanted to throw myself out of a window from the sheer boredom I was facing.  I started thinking about blogging, my addiction, and I realized that I manage 7 blogs which most of them are highly neglected because I have to watch what I say most of the time, here it’s more open and honest.  I think about the people I am sitting with and wonder about how they would feel if they could read my real thoughts, if I would become the outcast instead of the go to person.  It really makes me wonder.
 
At hour two it began and I wanted to jump across the line of chairs at the two people that would raise their hand and make a long drawn out comment to every issue!  Literally raising their hand so they could have the floor and talk, AGAIN!  They were the kind of people that ask the same redundant questions over and over because they couldn’t understand something.  It drove me crazy because it was the kind of thing you ask someone for a one on one meeting with if you really truly can’t add two plus two!  To constantly raise your hand in question about the same things over and over after they have explained it time and time again, just frustrates everyone else that already got it and could also repeat it to you.
 
I understand we should all pitch in, ask questions and give feedback and so on.  I love getting ideas and making things better or work faster.  What I don’t get is how they don’t realize the absurdity of their inability to get what everyone else already got the hour before.  The third hour of my meeting was literally a back and forth between one person and five others trying to make her get it.
 
I had an urge to stand up to make a motion to kick her out of the meeting.  Can you see it now?
 
Ms. B: I move to send Ms. Moron out of this meeting until further notice.
 
Ms. Moron: I second your motion.
 
Ms. B: Those in favor.
 
Everyone: I 
 
(Insert: roaring cheers and applause)
 
I smirk at myself as I listen to incessant babbling and think, shit why are we friends or how?!
 
Most of the conversation was so ridiculous that I though she maybe was doing it for attention and seemed to be one of those girls that are needy and always wants help and with a room full of people to help her she seemed ecstatic!
 
Since I am the totally opposite, I just felt annoyed at her for acting like that.  She would say sorry and then ask the same question over again, shuffling mindlessly through her papers because she couldn’t find what she was looking for.  I almost stood up and pulled out what she was searching for because even I knew where it was in her messy brief. 
 
I’m going to wrap up my rant and leave you with this funny pic…
It’s thirsty Thursday, I’ll be needing a tall glass!!

4 comments:

  1. I feel your pain. I often find myself in meetings (or sadly when someone walks into my office and sits down to talk) leaving my body and standing somewhere behind myself having a conversation with myself about how stupid all of this particular discussion is. Like a puppet master, I am able to control my real body into nodding yes or uttering the occasional "yep" or "I hear ya". When a particularly long winded, well meaning person rambles on about stuff that I don't care about, I genuinely hear that sound that Charlie Brown's teachers made. "wah wah wah, wah wah." When possible, I try to slip back into my body and bring the conversation to an end, or if in a meeting, I shuffle and gather papers like one would as if they were preparing to stand up and leave. But if the other parties don't react in some sort of Pavlovian way, like you, I'm stuck for the duration.

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    1. Meetings can be boring but at least no one person is focusing their attention on you unless you are speaking, but when it’s in your office you have to actually look like you’re listening and care about what they are saying. Although, it’s much easier to claim something else to do to get out of it or the ever famous have the secretary buzz you to pull you out of a meeting in your office. I’ve been known to do that… I call it time management!

      I get easily lost in daydreams in large meetings because I feel like everyone just likes to hear themselves speak… while I have work to do and want to get to it! Deadlines, people! :)


      Oh and everyone should always react to the paper shuffling que, otherwise next time they want to go, no one will do it!

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  2. Ms. B I agree with you 100% So many department meetings I have sat through that a particular person drones on and on endlessly with nothing that is relevant to the department or the meeting. Get to the point, lets have the meat and potatoes.

    I approached my boss about this very thing and told her the time spent in the meetings as long as they go on we are getting further behind in our work. Since customer service is our goal, shouldn't we be focusing on that instead of long meetings?
    She agreed, we no longer have to attend one particular meeting each month and the meetings we do hold are more relevant to us specifically.

    Yes, I would daydream in the long meeting myself, often times thinking of someone under the board table. Everyone would wonder why I smiled so much.

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    1. I am all about time management, if you waste time, you waste money!

      I definitely agree with making sure everyone doesn’t have to attend meetings that don’t pertain to them. Especially the people that don’t really care about getting things done, those slow movers that are happy to give away their responsibilities… eventually giving away theirs jobs.

      We need more people that are willing to speak up and make changes, especially when it helps everything move faster and more efficiently! Two thumbs up!

      What else is there to do but daydream when stuck in a meeting like that. In my experience conference rooms tables are quite fun!!

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